We have all participated in discussions where the subject associated with one spouse cheating another is talked about and just lately I was in this kind of conversation with a friend who was in fact indicating to me that she had caught her husband making calls to some phone chat sex numbers, and just how she was so outraged due to the fact that he had been using her personal debit card to pay for the calls! “At least they were affordable phone sex chats” she ultimately mentioned regarding those phonesex discussions he had been savoring without her knowledge, as if he needed to be appreciated for acute sense of financial propriety for locating inexpensive phone sex as opposed to more expensive fantasy phone lines! I had to finally ask her if the fee for his “extra marital indiscretions” was the major reason for being annoyed, considering that, if perhaps my own boyfriend happened to be sleaze-bag having sexual one-on-one sexual chitchats with other girls, I believe I might have gotten raving mad with regards to the whole thing!
What with one on one phone sex conversations, to private shows, to who knows what, the world is all of a sudden a much smaller place when it comes to connect with people.
For many singles, adult phone is probably the easiest way to break the monotony of the single life. But what would you say if a person you knew, a married person! at that told you once that she caught her husband using one such adult phone service? Could you likely forgive him? Show yourself to be so understanding that you’d be much more perturbed by the simple fact that the man in question had used your credit card to buy this (as my good friend’s husband did) and this is just what you ended up objecting to?, or would you be less inclined to forgive him? Here is what my friend told me when I asked if she was angry with her husband!
“If I’m completely honest with you, it didn’t bother me that much! The fact that he used my credit card as payment for these phone services was more annoying to me. Some may argue that anytime someone has any type of intimacy with another person, whether it be in person, as in real life, or virtual as in this case, then it is a form of cheating. But I didn’t see it that way. Not more than when you, me and the girls go out on our girls’ only night and you know how wild we get sometimes, even if no one has ever done anything more than flirt! In answer to your question, no I cannot say that I was angry!”
Her reaction made me stop and think about it for a while. It had certainly taken me by surprise, and I had to acknowledge that her thought process was basically correct. In any case, we all believe that the ladies who answer these types of calls are not like the photographs they put on their sites thus it may very well be possible that it is not necessarily the girl her man called that he was having phonesex with, but rather a fantasy, an actress who was playing a specific role play.
Had I not caught my own husband watching porn on several occasions, without me? “Bob (my husband) watches porn and I’ve caught him many times”! I told her. “Thinking about, I was crossed with him, but not because of what he was doing, but rather because he hadn’t thought I might want to join in the fun”!
But even as I was about to develop my own, personal argument further, the lady cut me off.
“As I said, the fact that he used my credit card was what really annoyed me. I had a go at him for that, made him stew for a while and when I was feeling more forgiving, I told him that next time he felt the need to entertain himself like that, he should ask me to participate! After all, why shouldn’t I be allowed some extra fun from time to time!”
To say that I was surprised would be the understatement of the year. I was besides myself with incredulity! My oldest and dearest friend had just told me that. My sweet, lovely childhood friend who was always prude and proper. And this was the sweet, innocent woman who was telling me that was entertaining the idea of a threesome, even if it was to take place by way of mobile love!
“Did you? I asked her. Did you do it? Did you and your husband have adult phone with another person? Your own virtual version of a 3-some!
“Of course I did! And I loved it. It was quite an experience and all I can tell you is that you should try it!”
